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Ever been depressed, mad at yourself, or angry at others, beause a project went ‘south’?
Yes, we all have had those experiences.
Have you ever heard of Robert Jordan Fritz?
I’m confident that he can help you with that.
Fritz is on my short list of lifetime heroes. He is not easy to describe in a sentence or even a hundred sentences. This is partly because he is both an extraordinary musician and composer (I am a classical pianist) and partly because he is a business organizational development genius.
His bio can be found here: http://robertfritz.com/index.php?content=about - His shtick is the mechanics, orientation, and spirit of the creative process.
For your benefit, let’s talk about the “business genius” contributions of Fritz. Let’s look at those projects, those relationships, etc., those “best-laid plans of mice and men,” that depressed you or angered you when they went south, or they currently just can’t seem to come to fruition.
Oscillating and Advancing Structures
Fritz discovered that there are two basic patterns and sequences in everyone’s goal-oriented behavior. It’s depressing to realize that ONE is “oscillating,” but it’s really motivating to learn that the OTHER is “advancing.” Because utilizing the “advancing structure” leads to more and more of the results you most desire, and this creates confidence.
If you knew you could go forward, forward, forward, as a result of the investment of your time and energy, wouldn’t you jump out of bed each morning feeling highly motivated?!
We all want the latter, where advancement builds on advancement. We don’t want–but too often experience–the other one, in which we oscillate almost like a rocking chair. A little forward, two steps forward, one step backward . . . aarrgghh . . .
I personally found it highly motivating to learn that there was a way to transform my goal-behaviors so that I went forward, forward, forward. And that it did not involve “deep Freudian psychoanalysis” (LOL) to figure out why I had been sabotaging myself! It did not even require changing my beliefs, and it did give me renewed confidence!
Head’s up: It does require some inner work. But it’s a relatively small investment that yields huge pay-offs. Like 100% of everything else in your life, it will go forward much more smoothly if you dismiss your Inner Critic-Judge (ICJ*) first. The best tool I have ever found for that is the SSSS* — the Six Simple Self-talk Statements.
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It could be the next significant advancement in your life.
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*ICJ = the Inner Critic-Judge part of your personality that’s always negative
*SSSS = Six Simple Self-Talk Statements, said by a centered YOU to your ICJ.
Basic Version: 1) Thank you. 2) I received your message. 3) Thank you for your good intentions. 4) The good news is that my inner child is safe here with me and _ _ (your version of God). 5) You can relax because … 6) we are handling things.
I stand on the shoulders of giants, the original creators and developers of the model of the inner selves, namely, Dr. Hal Stone and Dr. Sidra Stone. Learn more from them at:
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