Mute Your Critic . . .
Wake Up Confident!
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“The Four Little-Known Steps from Low Self-Esteem to Radiant Confidence”:
Darel Rutherford wants to help you! (cont.)
This blog is based partly on Darel Rutherford’s comments (www.RichBits.com) and partly on mine where my initials (RRR) are added. He says:
Self-confidence is the most powerful form of riches on the planet!
Once you have that, you can have anything else you want in life. Hear me on this. Belief in yourself is all it will take to make you healthier, wealthier and happier than you have ever been before.
(Darel, cont.) So, do yourself a big favor. Right now, stop reading. Allow the idea of having ten times more self confidence sink in, and allow the idea of being that confident to become your burning desire. Believe in it and know that it will happen. All that’s required is that you be sufficiently motivated to follow the following two simple steps to personal power.
To raise the bar on your self confidence, do these two things on a daily basis.
(1) Set your conscious intention to KEEP your power and stop giving away your power.
(2) Set your conscious intention to ADD to your personal power daily.
Let’s look at (1) today, and the second one in a future blog: He says that you and I drain our personal power, we give it away daily, by telling ourselves and others our victim stories!
RRR note – I underlined the word telling, because that’s the operative word. Telling! That is why I continually teach that IT ALL COMES DOWN TO WHAT YOU TELL YOURSELF. Awareness + Self-talk are the key tools for changing your entire life dramatically!
Back to Darel: You think you don’t have a victim story? Think again. We all have victim stories, and when you start paying attention, you’ll see how many they are.
RRR note – I am having several would-be victim situations this morning! I could tell you about my computer running aggravatingly slow despite running Hitman-pro-3.5, so my tech will be making a house call. I could tell you about my physician’s staff forgetting to call in my lab test order and the aggravation of time wasted and trips wasted, etc.
The SSSS Empowers Me
(If you used it instead of just reading about it, it would empower you, too.)
But I won’t go further with those poor-me stories. That’s because it’s more important to me to remember and affirm that “I am verrrrry powerful . . .” so I acknowledge the practical events, and I continue to tell myself the best possible things.
The most important thing I tell myself is the SSSS* – this morning they are being addressed to the JUDGE part of my ICJ.* I soothe and separate from the poor dear, whose entire identity is based on the false belief that I can be a victim! Then I am able to function in the zone of my EMERGING CENTER with a more clear mind.
And from there I tell myself other things, such as: I tell myself about my competence to take the necessary steps to move forward, I tell myself that there are a variety of possible causes of the problems (things are not always as my Inner Judge self thinks!!), I tell myself that by looking at things differently I will feel different . . . and . . . so . . . on.
Back to Darel
Darel isn’t as lucky as you, he doesn’t know about the SSSS.* He does know about giving your power away. With each victim / blaming / poor-me story you tell, whether you are telling others or yourself, you give up personal power big time. Weak!
Darel now gives us a personal example from his ife:
Every two weeks a team of ladies comes to his house to clean it. They do a good job and get it done in about one hour. But while cleaning, they also rearrange some things that he would rather not have moved. The clocks are turned the wrong way, and the stuff he keeps on his bathroom vanity is totally rearranged. He used to get very upset about these things after the cleaning ladies left.
He asks, Does his reactive behavior remind you of anything you might be doing as well? His reaction, and the story he tells himself and others about it, is a victim story, pure and simple.
The Five-Part Healthy Communication Formula
RRR – Wow. Darel needs to learn about the SSSS!
Furthermore, he also needs to know that there’s a fabulous secret to the successful handling of matters such as this. I call it the The Five-Part Healthy Communication Formula.
I’ll share it next week – it will be one of the best things you ever learned from me.
Or from anyone.
Your Confidence Coach
So what would YOU like to be more confident about?
HOW I CAN HELP?
Do you have BIG plans & goals, but even BIGGER self-sabotage?
Do you feel depression or anger? Do you have fear of rejection, feel unworthy?
My specialty is helping people discover their confidence and create exciting motivation.
It’s the Psychology of Success.
ACRONYMS EXPLAINED – The Path to Your Confidence
*ICJ = Inner Critic-Judge
*EC = “YOU” as the Emerging Center, like being the CEO of your life
*SSSS = Six Simple Self-talk Statements which “YOU” say to your ICJ. Here is the basic version: 1) Thank you, you’re good at your job! 2) I received your message that _ _ _. 3) I appreciate your underlying good intentions. 4) I have some really good news for you: My vulnerable inner child is safe here with me and _ _ (your term for God). 5) So you can relax because … 6) we’re handling things a different way.
I stand on the shoulders of giants, Dr. Hal Stone & Dr. Sidra Stone, the original creators and developers of the revolutionary model of the psychology of inner selves. You can learn more at their main site:
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